Apr
she told me a few years back.
she’s now dating a friend of mine and i am not sure whether or not to tell him she has genital herpes as he could could get this std off her as the genital herpes virus doesn't go away!
what should i do?
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don't tell him and then come april 1st guess who's got the best prank ever, you doooooo!
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don't tell him, its hard enough for her to date let alone having the embarassment of having herpes to start with. Knowing he's one of your friends i highly doubt she would hook up with him and not tell him, that would risk both your friendship with him and would put herself in quarrals for doing something to your friend.
let her tell your friend herself. put yourself in her shoes for a second and how would u feel if your sibling told people you were dating that you had herpes… yeah it wouldn't be cool.
she's probably just getting to know him at this point and i doubt its sexual, but if it makes you feel more comfortable you should have a talk with her and tell HER to tell him before they get sexual if the relationship does seem to progress into sex.
but whatever you do, don't tell him, let her do it. it takes a lot of courage to have that speak and you shouldn't be the one to have it with him.
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Don't tell him but do give her some courage to tell him. Their private life if none of your business. Let her do the telling, she should before things get intimate. There are ways that she can prevent passing herpes onto him, you may want to do some research on herpes before you open your mouth. Yes it is permanent once you’ve it but some people (not too many mind you) are willing to accept that. Some people with herpes have a lot of trouble finding an accepting partner and face a lot of rejection because of it. Let her be happy for now.
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you should encourage your sister to tell him the truth.
you cant get rid of herpes. its there and can flare up at any time. much like facial herpes.
as soon as someone gets infected with genital herpes, its for life.
its not your place to tell him. even though i do sympathise with your concern. your sister must tell him the truth. as knowing she has herpes and willingly spreading it can lead to a nasty lawsuit.
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You MUST tell him…could you imagine the day your friend is messing with you and says “dude i ****** your sister!”
then TWO people you care about are going to be very very screwed. ALSO if she knows she has it and doesnt tell him, and she sexes him, that she has the ability to get in LEGAL trouble. Seriously, this is no joking matter, you all need to get it out and in the open before someone gets hurt.
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Dont tell him, its not your place. Its up to her to tell him. Its hard enough to tell someone about an std without someone telling tales on you. If she is sleeping with this guy its up to her to be fair and honest with him.
She’ll hate you doing that to her and you could lose your friend as well as the relationship with your sister along with her trust.
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Tell your friend, no matter what.
If he does get it, you'll be feeling guilty forever
I'd wait for a little to see if your sister will tell him herself, and if she doesn't but their relationship gets serious, TELL HIM.He has a right to know!
Good luck!