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i'm thinking this is too much for me and i should leave. I hate to leave a LTR because its not about her/me. but this isn't going to go away and i don't want to be around the kid, he's 13 and so disrespectful its awful.
she tried taking him to counseling but quit after 3 counselors, because he is so disrespectful. she lets him dictate many of her decisions.
Answer:
Dude, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE. I'm not even kidding. Even if you love her, and want to be in a serious relationship with her, just MOVE ON.
As a step parent, you will never be able to decipline the child because:
1. She (his actual parent) lets him do what he wants.
2. Children almost always have no respect or regard for what the step parent has to state, and will ignore you, if not be a complete jackass.
3. Things could get physically violent when he’s older, and she WILL take his side.
I know you really care about her, but you already stated that he dictates what she has the ability to do. It's only a matter of time before she convinces you to do the same just to make him happy.
If you like your life to be dramatic, scary, and unpredictable; stay.
Answer:
It is in a roundabout way her/me. Her allowing him to dictate many of her decisions, she is only compounding the problem worse, regardless of therapy. Not only does he need it, she does too. I really feel empathy for the both of them. However, you don't need to be part of the equation at this point in time.
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weird as this might be. i comprehend what kind of child this might be. i am 13 and i know you may turn away now but i was beat up by a 10 year old yesterday. this kid was rude and disrespectful but if you think you should go; then you need to do what would make you happy.
Answer:
Take the initiative and put that kid in his place. Yea your girlfriend might be like “no hes to sensitive your being too mean” but once he knows that he doesn't run the place she will be grateful.
If you don't feel like its your place and you really are miserable then leave.
Answer:
do whats best for you, im sure she will understand.
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