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Just recently, my girlfriend found out she was pregnant(unplanned). We knew we couldn't have it, but I said I'd always be there no matter what.She had a fear that because she didn't know she was pregnant, that her drinking and dancing might put the baby at risk. She went to the doctors without me as she said it'd be hard to have me there with her. She didn't talk to me for a week after that. Finally she talked to me, saying how hard it was for her, how they did surgeries, how the fetus didnt survive and she was anemic and shes waiting for biopsy results. She explained to me how she is scared that she can't have kids again and her and I have desired marriage and a family together, just not now. I love this woman unconditionally. But she says there's a stigma with me and can't see me again, even said she wants to move away and escape it all. I'm serious about her and have been more than supportive and caring. We were in love. I already considered her my wife. But now shes gone. Im hurt.
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It may be that she is still emotional over the baby. It's not your fault and she just may be looking at someone to blame because she feels guilty. It's hard to say, but for now just give her some space. Give her a card and let her know you love her, how sorry you feel, and that you will give her some space. She may not be in the talking mood, but would read your card. Hold on and let your love prevail.
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Give her time, all this is hormonal. Just let her know that you love her and that you are supportive of her decisions.
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Just shooting from the hip here, but it sounds like she cheated on you and had an abortion. You're just too naive to see it.
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I think the one thing you have to do is seriously talk to her about it.
Tell her how you love her and that you want to be with her!
Thats sort of the one thing you can do…
arrange to meet up with her somewhere casual, in public and then maybe take her for a meal and talk to her over dinner or lunch or whatever.
If she doesn't want to see you, just tell her that it's really really important and that you really need to see her.
good luck
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That sounds like a very sad situation, I am sorry. I think if you just give her some time, maybe she will come around. She is probably in a very unhappy position right now, so I think if you just wait a while, everything will be okay. Best wishes to you both and good luck.
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dont worry she wont meet anyone
as good as u she'll realize
wat she had theres so many
jerks out there that dont take
girls seriously
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That is too hard dude but the thing is if she never likes you anymore then go on men find another women or concentrate to your work to forget your pass about this girl.,
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Just give her some time and space. She needs to deal with herself right now, and then you guys can try getting back together again at some point down the road.
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I don't think she had a miscarriage - I think she had a termination. I've had a miscarriage in the past - as many women do - but I've never heard of them doing a biopsy afterwards. I think she's probably more upset about having a termination than she thought she'd be and seeing you again would remind her of what she's done. It's a sad situation to be in - I wish you all the very best of luck.
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Perhaps you should have made her your wife before you got her pregnant.
Commitment issues can carry a heavy load. The relationship sounds one sided.
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I hate to say this but she may have had an abortion and then may have went to the doctor and came and told you that. I am a women, and i would like to let you know never underestimate a person. I know this may be hard for you to handle or understand. also if she did have a miscarriage and you do believe her, its hard to believe she would not want you by her side to help her threw this time and to maybe try again
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honestly I think she had a termination. Either way, she is in a really hard place right now. If you love her, be there for her and support her, but remember she is probably grieving for the loss (either by termination or miscarraige), and many people deal with grief in different ways.
Goodluck!
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Well…my best friend of 15 yrs went through something like this and well I dont think your girl friend (ex) had a miscarriage!!
My friend had a baby with this guy she was with for 2 yrs, when there son was about a yr old she got pregnant again, and just didnt want to take on another child considering she had a 5 yr old also by another man. So SHE desided to have an abortion, and also told the father she had a miscarriage. I of course knew the truth (which killed me) but she pushed the father away, pretty much telling herself it was his fault! Her and I are actually not friends anymore because I couldnt stand to see her take his son away and abort another child of his and blame him completely…I was trying to be supportive to her but she also pushed me away because I didnt agree with what she had done and I am sorry but as a best friend I dont hide my feelings.
Good luck to you and give her time…if time is not what she wants, then you just need to move on and be happy!!
You sound like a wonderful man and there are many women looking for a man like you that will appreciate you!!
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Well…my best friend of 15 yrs went through something like this and well I dont think your girl friend (ex) had a miscarriage!!
My friend had a baby with this guy she was with for 2 yrs, when there son was about a yr old she got pregnant again, and just didnt want to take on another child considering she had a 5 yr old also by another man. So SHE desided to have an abortion, and also told the father she had a miscarriage. I of course knew the truth (which killed me) but she pushed the father away, pretty much telling herself it was his fault! Her and I are actually not friends anymore because I couldnt stand to see her take his son away and abort another child of his and blame him completely…I was trying to be supportive to her but she also pushed me away because I didnt agree with what she had done and I am sorry but as a best friend I dont hide my feelings.
Good luck to you and give her time…if time is not what she wants, then you just need to move on and be happy!!
You sound like a wonderful man and there are many women looking for a man like you that will appreciate you!!
She had a fear that because she didn't know she was pregnant, that her drinking and dancing might put the baby at risk.shes gone dont keep waiting 4 her