Jul
I have the ability to definately tell you that if my girlfriend got pregnant and I was a man and she told me she wanted an abortion, I would be devastated. 
I'm against abortion. I mean, is the baby not half his too?
If she DOES keep the baby. why is he forced to pay Child Support if he doesn't want the baby? YET he has no state in if it is aborted or not. This doesn't make sence to me in any way.
Yes, It's OUR body. Oh freaking well. That doesn't change that that baby is HALF his.
What's your opinion?
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I agree with you, I don't concur with abortion either. If you're responsible enough to have sex, you should deal with the consequences. I'm also a Christian so I don't believe any of us have a right to kill a person God has designed and created.
None of us are perfect and we all muck up, I fell pregnant and had my baby and he is the most wonderful tiny boy ever and a perfect baby, his dad wanted the option of an abortion and I said No way!!! Although it was eating me up because I felt that I wasn't ready. I wouldn't change it at all now he’s the world and everything to me. His dad cares about him more than anything and is a good dad too.
With regards to Child Support, the woman has to deal with the consequences whatever she decides and so should a man deal with the actions of unprotected or not protected enough sex! (I used a condom which split and the morning after pill and I still got pregnant on the one occasion I could so I'm not saying its not from lack of trying everytime!) The man can only be bombarded with Child Support if he acknowledges himself on the birth certificiate or paternity proves he is the dad and if he is a father he should contribute to his child.
It is the woman who has to go through it and if a bloke wanted an abortion, and you wanted to keep it and they’d rights in this, then that would cause major problems too! I don't think it would be workable now to take away the option of the woman to have an abortion though if the bloke wanted to keep it because it is the woman going through it and you can't force a woman to continue with a pregnancy if she doesn't want to. I do agree with you though, the baby is half of him too. But for woman who want an abortion, which is a selfish decision even if people are pushing you into it, it is ultimately your choice, and if they’re selfish enough to say I'm not ready for a baby, I doubt they would take the guys feelings or thoughts into the matter above their own feelings on the matter. Ultimately in today's world it is the woman's choice on this, but i don't believe there should be the option for abortion at all! A child is a blessing whatever circumstances caused it to be there!
I know it is not an easy decision for some tho, but ultimately they are not thinking of the unborn life and what that child could become, adoption to families who can't have children and are desperate for them is such a better option. Its nine months of sacrifice to give the blessing to someone else if you can't deal with it yourself, and then there would be no guilt about the abortion. I know a lot of people who have had at least one and always there is regret, sometimes deep depression causing guilt as it is murder, especially when for a couple of months of sacrifice you could give someone everything they've ever wanted.
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i think if the man is willing to take care of the baby then yes he should have a state in it she has the ability to give him the baby if she dose not want it!!
don't they know getting an abortion is killing a human to kill the baby they stick a needle in its head and suck its brains out then takes the feuds out!! there are other choices than abortion!
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It is your body and he may say he does not want the baby, the thing is he made the choice just as much as you to have sex knowing that’s is always a possibiltiy. There for he has to reap the consequences as well, grow some and take care of your child!!!
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i think if the man wants the kid he should be able to keep her/him it shouldnt be just the gir the man had a part in making the baby he should have a say we’re the ones who carry it but the man can help in each way he can rub your feet and things like that
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I completely agree, I think that if the man is willing to take responsibility for the child, he should be able to have just as much responsibility as the woman.
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if both celebrations are willing t o have sex then they should both already be able to know whats going to happen if pregnancy occurs if your not sure then take the proper precausions
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Not unless they're the one who's pregnant.
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My husband and I feel the same way as you. I hate when women say “well, it's my body.” What about the baby? What about the dad?? It's just plain selfishness. It's 9 months of your life and in return you get to give life to a little innocent baby.
Men should have just as equal rights as women when it comes to their kids. Fathers can be good parents too! People need to think about all the consequences before having sex. If you aren't ready for a baby, you should not have sex because there is always a possibility that you’ll get pregnant.
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I think that the woman should definitely think about what the man would like when making her decision. Ultimately I believe the woman should only get an abortion if that's what they both want. but if there is any doubt on one of their sides then they need to stick it out and continue with the pregnancy. They have the ability to always decide on adoption or what not. However if she gets pregnant and decides she wants to keep it, he should pay child support even if he didn't want it… I mean what if it was the other way around she would still have to support it as well and he did help make it.
Abortion like I said should only be an option it both celebrations are for it… Any doubt one either side then it should not be done.
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Its not about the fact that the child is his or not.
Birth and abortion both carry risks to a mother's body and health.
It was his decision to sleep with her, knowing pregnancy is a possibility. If he didnt want a baby, he should have kept his pants zipped. He shouldnt get out of his responsibility just because he doesnt “want” it. And she shouldnt get a state in whether the woman decides to keep the baby or not. Having an abortion could harm the woman for life, and even make it impossible to ever have a baby again. If she is not willing to risk that, its her choice. The guy shouldnt get out of supporting the child he created just because he states “I dont want it, you should have an abortion”. If that were the case, it would be giving guys free reign to knock up whoever they want, and then not have to deal with their responsibility just because they stated those words.
God, how old are you? 12? Hellooooooo.
He doesnt get a say, because even though the BABY is his, the body carrying and birthing the baby isn’t.
Even in this modern day, women can still DIE from pregnancy or birth, or endure scary and painfull complications. A man shouldnt have the power to force a woman to last the possible complications of pregnancy, OR the possible complications of abortion.
That being said… I dont concur with abortion. If the man WANTS the baby, and the woman doesnt, it would be nice if she just carried it and then signed it off to him. But I cant state I've ever heard of a case where a man would have wanted to raise the baby on his own rather than it be aborted.
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honestly i think your a little dramatic. i mean i don't really see why half the men on this earth actually deserve to have a state in abortion. were the ones that are emotionally and physically going through it not men.
and the sex thing you can be all against it but it's natural. And yes some people aren't even mature enough to have sex but your being so judgemental. i'm sure when you fall in love your perspective on it will change a lot.
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I think they’re entitled to voice their thought but the bottom line is that unless they’re planning on carrying and raising that child it is still up to the women. Ultimately the choice falls on the person who is carrying the child and giving birth.
I have a son and I’m pregnant now, My son is only mine I chose to have him and raise him alone but I considered other option's but since my life was going to change the most I made my choice.
If it is so upsetting to the man about what to do in case of a pregnancy then prior to having sex they should ask if I accidentally get you pregnant do I get to select what you do?
I'm sure given the choice of getting laid or having a choice most men will take getting laid.
If a woman is raped does her attacker deserve an opinion?? Technically the baby is half his?
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A man does have a choice. He has the ability to choose to have sex and deal with the consequences of sex, or he has the ability to select to abstain and avoid those consequences.
He has the ability to also choose to stay with the woman and be a loving father for the rest of his life, or he can choose to walk and abandon his “Half” of the child whenever he chooses.
Conversly, while a woman has the choice to engage in sex (almost) the same way a man does, she does not have the opportunity to abandon ship once the child is born (speaking in conventional terms only). So, because the woman bears the lasting consequences of childbirth (emotional, financial, physical, societal) alone (a man is there by choice only), she alone is reserved the right to decide whether or not she wants to exchange those consequences for being a woman who has known the pain of having had an abortion.
Those chromosomes are half his, but the child bearing is exclusively a womans terrain. Im supportive of men taking up their roles as nuturers–but because some things cannot be changed about our bodies–women are still guaranteed that one, if nasty, escape hatch.
Abortion is devastating to many men. But they do have the good fortune to have it done TO them. Women have to make the choice to do it to THEMSELVES. Face it, abortion is never an easy choice. To tell a person otherwise is woefully ignorant.
Paying child support is one of those nice things that have come about because of the Womens Movement. It ensures that if a woman decides to keep her child and be a mom, both of their lives (hers and the childs) are not horribly compromised. Instead of the two of them slipping down the social ladder, the man is obligated to cover his “Half” of the child. This in no way gives him a say in abortion (make me an argument that doesnt come straight from a heartless monster and I'll eat my hat), but it does act as a point to ponder when the woman is thinking about the choices she will need to make in the very near future.
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Sex causes babies. When a man and a woman have sex, they understand that a baby may result even if they're using birth control. So once a man and a woman have sex, both of them have implicitly agreed to accept the consequences, including pregnancy.
Sex might be natural, but we're not animals who can't control ourselves. The only 100% guaranteed way to prevent pregnancy is to be abstinent. Nobody ever died because they had to wait for sex.
For couples who intend to have sex anyway, there are many excellent methods of birth control available. If a couple doesn't want a baby, they should always use at least 2 methods. If a woman is on the pill or using an IUD, she should still use a contraceptive foam/cream/gel/film or her partner should use a condom. If the woman is using a diaphragm or cervical cap with contraceptive foam/gel/cream, then her partner should also use a condom. Using two methods protects against a forgotten pill or a broken condom.
A tiny personal responsibility goes a long way. If you aren't ready to be a parent, you need to take extra precautions to prevent it.
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only if its looks like the guy from goonies
jk
no men suck i should know i'm one.
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IF HE THOUGHT IT WAS ALL FUN TO BE UP IN THERE LIKE THAT…THEN HE NEEDS TO FEEL THE SAME ABOUT A BABY..CONDOM OR NOT…HE HAD SEX WE ALL KNOW ANY KIND OF BIRTH CONTROL IS NOT 100% EFFECTIVE..SO HE SHOULD DEAL WITH IT.
MAMAS BABY DADDYS MAYBE..HE SHOULDNT HAVE THE RIGHT TO RUN AWAY FROM HIS RESPONSIBILITY..AND IT SOUNDS TO ME LIKE YOU DONT KNOW WHAT SIDE U WANT TO BE ON..U DONT WANT SOMEONE TO DISAGREE WITH YOU..BET YET YOU POSTED THIS QUESTION?? HMMM
THATS WHY ONLY MATURE AND RESPONISIBLE ADULTS SHOULD HAVE SEX TOGETHER!!!!
OK HONEY I GUESS U WANT TO GET TOLD OFF!!
1ST OF ALL DONT POST A QUES IF U DONT LIKE MY ANSWER!
2ND OF ALL YOUR QUES OR STATEMENT I'M NOT SURE WHAT TO CALL IT..MAKES NO SENSE B/C U ARE SUPPORTING LIKE 3 DIFF, ISSUES!! HOW ABOUT UR MAN TELL YOU TO GET AN ABORTION OR BAILS ON YOU AND STILL SEE IF U FEEL THE SAME…
IM NOT THE ONE TO BE PLAYED WITH…U ASKED A DUMB QUESTION..THAT WILL NEVER BE SOLVED…AND I SHOULNT EVEN OF WASTED MY TIME ENTERTAINING IT!!! IN WHICH CASE I'M NOT!! GOODBYE WEIRD A** GEESH…U GOT TO BE LIKE 17
LOL IDIOT
AND IF I READ UR QUES RIGHT..U ASKED WHATS OUR OPINIONS?? LMAO